Looking for the perfect song to set the mood for your first dance as newlyweds? Choosing a song that captures the emotions of the day is a beautiful way to start this new chapter together. Each year, new love songs make their way onto playlists, while timeless classics hold strong. Choosing the perfect first dance song is a meaningful part of wedding planning that can set the tone for your celebration. Here’s a guide to help couples pick a song that feels just right.
Reflect on your relationship
Think about songs that hold special meaning for both of you, like one that played when you first met, had your first date, or a song that reminds you of a fun memory together.
Pick a genre you both love
Narrow down genres you both enjoy, whether it’s classic jazz, pop, country, or indie. Sticking to a genre you both love makes the song feel more personal and authentic. For a unique touch, consider selecting a song from an unexpected genre and slowing it down or having it arranged acoustically.
Listen to the lyrics
Make sure the lyrics reflect the sentiments you want to express. Sometimes a song has a beautiful melody but may not have the right message when you listen closely. If a song’s instrumental version resonates with you but the lyrics aren’t a match, consider having an instrumental arrangement played for your first dance.
Danceability
If you’re planning a choreographed routine, choose a song with a beat that’s easy to dance to. A tempo that’s too fast or too slow can make dancing more difficult. If you’re not doing a choreographed dance, pick a song with a tempo that feels natural to sway to, allowing you to comfortably hold and move together.
Consider song length
Keep in mind that the typical length for a first dance is between 2–3 minutes. If your song is much longer, consider having a DJ or band shorten it or fade it out at a natural stopping point. It’s often best to avoid a song that’s too long unless you have a choreographed routine planned. It helps keep guests engaged and makes the moment feel just right.
Don't be afraid of being unique
Traditional songs are lovely, but sometimes a lesser-known or unconventional song can be more meaningful. Choosing a unique song can make the dance feel even more special. A creative twist might be to choose a mashup, acoustic cover, or orchestral version of a song you both love.
Photo by Jackie Kalch Photography
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